“Vision is the spectacular that inspires us to carry out the mundane.” —Chris Widener
It isn’t always that clean and easy, but those who achieve great things usually go through much of the same process, with many of the items listed below as part of that process. So if you have been struggling with achievement, look through the following. Begin to apply them and you will be on the road to achieving your goals.
Dream it:
Everything begins in the heart and mind. Every great achievement began in the mind of one person. They dared to dream, to believe that it was possible. Take some time to allow yourself to ask “What if?” Think big. Don’t let negative thinking discourage you. You want to be a “dreamer.” Dream of the possibilities for yourself, your family and for others. If you had a dream that you let grow cold, re-ignite the dream! Fan the flames. Life is too short to let it go.
Believe it:
Yes, your dream needs to be big. It needs to be something that is seemingly beyond your capabilities. But it also must be believable. You must be able to say that if certain things take place, if others help, if you work hard enough, though it is a big dream, it can still be done.
Saying "no" means getting used to disappointing people: In order to create change in your life, you need to make room for it. This might mean clearing a spot in your schedule or making room in your budget. Often, change also involves having to say no to people who need your help or want some of your time. It's not easy. That's why people tend to avoid the conflict and let their goals lapse in favor of keeping the peace. However, if you share the rationale for why you're saying no to something or someone, you'll often find support in unexpected places. It's OK to say, "You know me, I usually don't mind helping out but this is the year that I promised myself I would ____ and I really need to give that my time and attention in order to make it happen." You might also try asking outright for understanding: "I know you're used to seeing me more often and I am sorry that I haven't had as much time for you as I usually do. This year, I am finally going to try _____ and it's taking up a bit of my time. I hate disappointing you but I really hope you'll understand." When you include people in your goals, you increase the likelihood that they'll join with you and you can benefit from their support. If they are unsupportive or give you a guilt trip, that says more about them than it does about you. It can be hard for people to accept change, and sometimes seeing someone else make changes or go after their dreams challenges the status quo for those around them.
There's a reason you're told to put the oxygen mask on yourself first.
It's easy to think you're doing the right thing by giving yourself away and stretching yourself too thin. After all, you're being helpful, you're showing up, and you're taking care of people. However, when your own needs go unmet for a long period of time, the wear and tear on your spirit starts to show. You're less engaged, your relationships are challenged, and your mood suffers.
Saying no isn't about disappointing others. It's about taking care of you. It's about putting the oxygen mask on yourself so that you can be what everyone needs you to be.
It's not selfish to put your needs first. It's critical that you do.
Wishing you a year in which at least one of your resolutions comes true.
It isn’t always that clean and easy, but those who achieve great things usually go through much of the same process, with many of the items listed below as part of that process. So if you have been struggling with achievement, look through the following. Begin to apply them and you will be on the road to achieving your goals.
Dream it:
Everything begins in the heart and mind. Every great achievement began in the mind of one person. They dared to dream, to believe that it was possible. Take some time to allow yourself to ask “What if?” Think big. Don’t let negative thinking discourage you. You want to be a “dreamer.” Dream of the possibilities for yourself, your family and for others. If you had a dream that you let grow cold, re-ignite the dream! Fan the flames. Life is too short to let it go.
Believe it:
Yes, your dream needs to be big. It needs to be something that is seemingly beyond your capabilities. But it also must be believable. You must be able to say that if certain things take place, if others help, if you work hard enough, though it is a big dream, it can still be done.
Saying "no" means getting used to disappointing people: In order to create change in your life, you need to make room for it. This might mean clearing a spot in your schedule or making room in your budget. Often, change also involves having to say no to people who need your help or want some of your time. It's not easy. That's why people tend to avoid the conflict and let their goals lapse in favor of keeping the peace. However, if you share the rationale for why you're saying no to something or someone, you'll often find support in unexpected places. It's OK to say, "You know me, I usually don't mind helping out but this is the year that I promised myself I would ____ and I really need to give that my time and attention in order to make it happen." You might also try asking outright for understanding: "I know you're used to seeing me more often and I am sorry that I haven't had as much time for you as I usually do. This year, I am finally going to try _____ and it's taking up a bit of my time. I hate disappointing you but I really hope you'll understand." When you include people in your goals, you increase the likelihood that they'll join with you and you can benefit from their support. If they are unsupportive or give you a guilt trip, that says more about them than it does about you. It can be hard for people to accept change, and sometimes seeing someone else make changes or go after their dreams challenges the status quo for those around them.
There's a reason you're told to put the oxygen mask on yourself first.
It's easy to think you're doing the right thing by giving yourself away and stretching yourself too thin. After all, you're being helpful, you're showing up, and you're taking care of people. However, when your own needs go unmet for a long period of time, the wear and tear on your spirit starts to show. You're less engaged, your relationships are challenged, and your mood suffers.
Saying no isn't about disappointing others. It's about taking care of you. It's about putting the oxygen mask on yourself so that you can be what everyone needs you to be.
It's not selfish to put your needs first. It's critical that you do.
Wishing you a year in which at least one of your resolutions comes true.
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