These are random thoughts I wrote when I was at Juaboso. These journeys have given me new perspective about live, Ghana and people.
Some are truths and some are not;
- If you think you just need intelligence to succeed, then this belief will make your life difficult because success only comes to those who also know how to digest failures, criticism, standing alone, painful time, lonely nights, long hours, keep working even when there is 1% chance of success, that is only achieved by one quality — Resilience.
- Companies expect 10 years of experience from you while hiring you (completely forget they gave ad for fresh graduate) but while giving you salary they perfectly remember that you are graduate.
- Stop labeling yourself without even trying things. Because, the thing you consider impossible, will only become possible, once you try it.
- Once you failed in maths — in class 1, that doesn’t mean you’ll fail in maths again in engineering exam. So, stop doing Over-Generalization, it will destroy your life.
- Stop operating from victim mentality — that’s the real problem because once you believe that your effort or hard work wouldn’t change your situation. Then, no one can help you.
- You often get depressed, when your friends or family not giving you the same importance, that you’re used to. You need to understand one thing, they are not devaluing you. They just have something more interesting in their lives, that takes their attention.
- Stop playing the blame games and start taking the responsibility of your all-action whether it’s right or wrong. Always own every part of your life, because every experience (good or bad), weakness, strength, challenge helps you to make the person you’re today.
- As you throw rotten tomatoes from your refrigerator, the same way you should throw your rotten beliefs from your mind. Either it’s a tomato or beliefs, it becomes useless once it’s rotten.
- Stop bashing yourself for the mistakes that you never commit.
- You can’t give what you don’t have. I want to donate Ghc 1000000 to charity. What’s the problem? I don’t have anywhere near that right now. People have to have something first, before they can give it to someone else.
- You are not special, you are not above average, no one is going to care because everyone is self centered and focused purely on their own goals and themselves. You are only special to those who you mutually treasure eg. A close friend or family.
- You can never be happy all the time. Because you are always wanting something just out of your reach, you will never be happy. But, you can still be happier. My Barbie told me yesterday that "Just keep your expectations low." Just be grateful you have life and that you aren't homeless and starving and get on with it.
- Stop calculating yourself worth on others' calculators. Use your own calculator, you’ll have a happier and satisfying life.
- Social media is nothing more than a slot machine in our back pockets., the owners don't give a shit about you, money is everyone's objectives. Quit while you still can. Our lives are so dependent on social media. Scroll the feed, Check the likes, post this photo, check the messages, even though you did this 8 seconds ago. You might be thinking, “oh Ikay! Social media couldn't possibly be bad, it's the usage that matters right?” Wrong Chale, that's what THEY want you to think. Compulsive use sells. If your addicted to social media, they make more money off ads, and much more screen time. Social media is DESIGNED to be addictive by the world's smartest people. It doesn't make sense if social media was designed for productive use, where's the money gonna come from then? You get a small dopamine burst Everytime someone likes your photo. Eventually your brain has the attention span of a goldfish. Half of you probably didn't make it pass number 4? Exactly. Or maybe it's boring. IDK. Tell me what you think.
Finally.
Be Humble: My ego will not hurt by taking help from others.
