Friends: When we were no more friends again but we look like friends.

Sometimes you have this buddy of yours,  you were too close, you help each other, do stuff together and then one day you discover your friend has another friend who is your enemy. They will at least one day discuss you.

I wrote this two weeks ago on my way to Tema from Mampong-Akuapem. I was thinking about a lot of stuff that is going on in life. One which caught my attention most is fake friends or enemies in disguise. 

When are new at a place we get more friends,  new friends,  good friends and bad friends; Everyone wants to be your friend because of one reason or another. As time goes on we discover true friends from the fake friends. 

So who are friends? 

 A friend is someone who is closer to you than an acquaintance.  You advice him, he advices you, you give him stuff he gives you stuff (exchange gifts) Friendship is not a one party receive affair, if it becomes like that one will get too 'tired' of the other.

How do we consider someone a friend? Some people consider people who can help them a friend, people they only receive gifts from as a friend but I believe there's more to friendship than just give and take. It is a relationship;  there's sacrifice,  communication,  attention and a whole lot involved. 

Who are frenemies? Yes they do exist, they use friendship as a decoy.  They are like wolves in sheepskin;  they use friendship to cover their own agenda.  Some are also former genuine friends.  They're just interesting characters to enjoy watching  if you are able to spot them. 

Do they actually exist? Yes they do. They're those friends who you see their messages when they only need something.
They're those who talk sh*t behind your back.
They're those who are friends with your enemies. They discuss you at any given time.
They betray you at a every given chance.
They don't value their relationship with you.
They don't tell you the truth.
They always want to hear your news but don't wanna share theirs.
They are lairs.
They always look like they wanna convince someone. 
Until they're spotted,  they try hard to cover something. 
They hate you.
They will rather see you loose than win.
They're worse than your enemies.
They don't like you.
They're not good Christians.
They're the ones you normally have differences in ideas with.
You can't agree with him easily.
They're enemies.

I Wrote this in one if my series (letters to self) on this blog that;

"They become close to you because of what you can do for them

Fall into trouble, they'll be like they've not seen you suffering

Come out of the trouble, they'll be like we didn't know you were serious about it.

Ask them for help they'll be like I don't have I don't have; let them fall into trouble and act like them, they'll be like you have changed, you're becoming wicked, you're now becoming an a*s hole.

Become rich, your whole village want to be associated with your name, become poor and nobody ever knew you.

Become hungry and nobody would want to feed you, fall sick and nobody knows where the hospital is located, die and they'll write unknown tributes for you.

Society is indeed stuck on a druken stupor.

Treat humans based on your discretion! Just care about yourself first."

On the path to success and the journey to change the world, we need to check our relationships. Some people only care about what they receive from you, the moment you stop they will start hating.  It is pretty much difficult to handle these people but if you're able to spot them, you try your best to handle them. 
You will encounter great opposition on a path to success, need such characters in our lives!
There's a part two of this but I will share it when I  have learnt how to deal with them.